10 ways to give affirmation to your spouse

Posted by Matt Lane on February 20th, 2011 filed in Christian Living, family

Okay this post should have come before Valentine’s Day maybe but who knows, I’m kind of thinking it’s better to read this after the chocolate is gone and the flowers are on their way to being trashed.

Make up your own list but here are ten things off my list of how to give loving affirmation to your spouse:

  1. Send them a text! This might sound high schoolish but who cares, it’s still fun. Just don’t be…high schoolish.
  2. Greet them at the door when they come home. From shopping, work, whatever. Try it, I bet it makes a difference.
  3. Put your spouse above your kids. Yep, I said it, your kids are not as important as your spouse.
  4. On the heels of number 3, make them priority 1. And don’t just say it.
  5. Pursue them. Don’t know know what that means? You should.
  6. Do you look forward to spending time with them? And do they know that fact? Make sure they do.
  7. Intimacy. Do I need to spell it out? Enjoy your spouse. AFFIRM it.
  8. Give them praise. Simple yet…
  9. Plan. Hate planning? Give it a whirl. Plan a date. Plan a lunch. Plan a getaway. Plan an hour. (guys if your wife does most of this you are not leading)
  10. The Six Second Kiss. This one is great.

And for a bonus:

11.  Pray with your spouse. Yep doesn’t sound like it belongs in this list but I assure you it does.

Okay so if you are not married and read that list, well, 2, 3 and 7 don’t apply. But the rest do. Maybe. I’m on the fence for 10.

Anyway, here is the usual disclaimer that I am not great at this list and more. But I can tell you these things work.

Also, full disclosure and credit, Melissa spurred me to write this post and, I am writing this after being sick for two days and have laid on the couch for far too long. Not a good way for me to affirm much.

What’s on your list?


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